Apologies

Okay what is it with people who think they can do whatever the hell they want to you and then just apologize as if nothing happened? Here's my story...

I had this friend who was getting married. She had asked me to be one of her bridesmaids and I happily agreed. I bought the dress, helped her with wedding arrangements, and basically was just her friend. Then the guy gets all crazy and cheats on her. It wasn't the first time and she had had enough. She called off the wedding and then calls me crying and hysterical. I leave my golf game and go pick her up and take her to another friend's house. We console her and tell her its for the best, etc. She decides that she has had enough and wants her out of her house. We go with her to lend moral support and her dad comes down too. Well while he is there moving out his stuff (with his mom none the less), he just goes off. He starts cussing at us and calling us names and she just sits there. She lets him do it. So pissed! However we left it go because we think she is through with him. A few weeks later the wedding date comes and goes and she decides to go on the "honeymoon" to do some thinking and get her head on straight. I agree to feed the cats, etc. Come to find out she took him with her!!!! Yes thats right, you heard me! I could not believe. She lied right to our faces. Of course we don't find this out until after she returns from the trip and calls our mutual friend. Fortunately, she called her cause she was a lot nicer than I would have been. We demand she pay for our dresses and get out of our lives. She does and I haven't spoken to her since.

Well this week, I get this email...

"I have a sincere apology for both of you that is coming two years late. I apologize for not listening to the two of you, ----- and ----------- when the four of you begged and pleaded for me to stay away from ------. I apologize for any stress that disaster caused you. I removed him permanently from my life two months ago. You guys were right all along. I'm sorry I didn't listen to you from the start."

I was in absolute shock as was my other friend. She composed an email to reply to her and I had her add my name because I just didn't know what to say. This is what we wrote...

"We both accept your apology, understanding that what you believe to be love can blind you to truth at times. Beyond what we were telling you, we just wish you had seen how he treated you and your friends. I can’t promise that we will go back to being the closest of friends because there were many trust issues that were violated during that time. We stood up for you and took a lot of crap from him for it and still, many times, you told half truths or openly lied about things. I don’t think you understood how loyal our friendship was to you or the impact his behavior and the lies had on it. I hope that everything is going well and that you are moving past your relationship with him to better things."

I agree with what she wrote and I can accept her apology but I don't believe I can ever be friends with her again. My friends will tell you, I am loyal to a fault and when you break my trust it is really hard to get it back. I know if I were to have written a reply, it wouldn't have been near as nice.

She of course replies...

"Thank you both for accepting my apology. Things are going very well and I'm leaving my past behind. I have learned hard and valuable lessons."

Well I would hope so!

And finally an email I received today I can really appreciate!

COMEBACKS TO THAT ALL TIME FAVORITE QUESTIONS "Why Aren't You Married Yet?"

You haven't asked yet.
I was hoping to do something meaningful with my life.
Because I just love hearing this question.
Just lucky, I guess.
It gives my mother something to live for.
My fiancée is awaiting his/her parole.
I'm still hoping for a shot at Miss/Mr. America.
Do you know how hard it is to get two tickets to Miss Saigon?
I'm waiting until I get to be your age.
It didn't seem worth a blood test.
I already have enough laundry to do, thank you.
Because I think it would take all the spontaneity out of dating.
My co-op board doesn't allow spouses.
I'd have to forfeit my billion dollar trust fund.
They just opened a great singles bar on my block.
I wouldn't want my parents to drop dead from sheer happiness.
I guess it just goes to prove that you can't trust those voodoo doll rituals.
What? And lose all the money I've invested in running personal ads?
I don't want to have to support another person on my paycheck.
Why aren't you thin?
I'm married to my career, although recently we have been considering a trial separation.
(Bonus reply for Single Mothers) Because having a husband and a child would
be redundant.